The Pygmalion effect is a fascinating review of what we, if we are honest, know to be true. A simple way to rephrase this concept is: expect much, achieve much; or the reverse: expect failure, achieve failure. Many studies have been done in classrooms where either students or teachers have been told of the other group’s abilities or lack thereof. The ‘truth’ of the beliefs held came true.
How often do we find ourselves in a situation where we have made an assumption about how something or someone will behave and lo and behold, we end up with exactly the outcome or reaction we expected?
My challenge to you is to take a look at the assumptions you make about situations at work, in your family, or among your friends. Take your “glasses” off and revisit situations that may have been controlled by your assumptions. The hardest thing about this is that it may mean you have to change your attitude and perhaps even apologize for what was said. Realizing that you have a great impact on the outcome of interactions between yourself and others can be really hard and humbling. Decide to smile, decide to see the good, and decide to walk away from negativity. DECIDE… you have more power than you know 🙂